There are beautiful Black men walking this planet. Dedicated courageous brothers who respect and love Black women. This world is full of humble, brilliant, spirited brothers who love God, family and community. Black men are strong, hard working, and worthy. I know brothers who love, protect and rear children. Our brothers are attentive fathers, loving husbands, and strong leaders. Sisters, we have plenty of affectionate, sincere brothers among us. I know brothers who pray, listen, and meditate. We have plenty of brothers who love & raise children who are not biologically theirs. Yes, damn good Black men are alive and well.
But somehow some of us forget all that, because I hear sisters say: where all the good brothers at? or ain’t no good brothers left and all the good ones are gone. What do we really mean by good? How clear are we on what good is? When you think damn good what comes to mind? Sometimes we are not nearly as clear as we believe we are. Get a piece of paper out and start writing down what a good man is. List 50 qualities of a good Black man (whether you are married or single, the ongoing clarity is good for all of us). Really think about, sleep on it if you have to. Allow the list to just be yours, don’t call your home girl or mama for their thoughts, this is your list. By the way, if you are over the age of 15 "sweet" should not be your 1st characteristic!
Got 50 qualities yet? Once you have reached your 50 or close to it, put a checkmark by the qualities that describe you. For example, if you put honesty as a damn good man characteristic, are you an honest woman? Would others say you are honest? If rich made your list, how financially responsible and stable are you? We can only attract what we already are, if we are striving to attract a damn good man, we must ensure we are a DAMN good woman, ya dig?
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